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The Reason You Hate Cats, Explained
Representing for team feline
As a lifelong cat lover, I’ve noticed an interesting phenomenon among many dog people. A subtle or not so subtle need to compete on which pet is superior.
One of the comments on this video about how cats show attachment sums it up nicely.
While this is exaggerated for comedic effect, I’ve seen and felt this low-level resentment from dog people many times.
Cats are often described as aloof or even downright hostile, while most dogs are friendly and only too happy to approach strangers. It would seem like no contest for which is the superior pet.
But those who know cats realize they just have more complex relationships with humans.
To put it simply, the canine mindset is like that of a young child while the feline mindset is like that of an adult.
When you meet a new dog, they’re generally happy to see you. Their tail wags, their ears lower, they demonstrate visible excitement.
When you meet a new cat, they’ll observe you from afar. Some will approach you, others allow you to approach them. They sniff you, size you up, and absorb your energy.
Then they decide how to respond.
The difference is very similar to how young children meet new people versus adults. Kids barrel right up to a stranger and start telling them about their day. It’s sweet and endearing, exhibiting both trust and a lack of discretion. They’re always open to connection, much like dogs.
Adults are courteous, but generally not overly effusive to strangers. We subtly observe cues and behaviors and act accordingly. We form opinions slowly based on context. We are open to some connections and closed to others, much like a cat.
Dogs are far less discriminating. They love great owners and terrible owners with pretty much the same level of ardor.
A cat’s approval is based on merit. If you treat a cat well, it will typically like you. If you don’t, it won’t.
